10 Tips to De-Stress Your Holidays
This is a wonderful article written by Dr. Yip from the Renewed Freedom Center. 10 very helpful tips that everyone could benefit from.
November 1st, 2013
Published by Dr. Yip
1) Loneliness? Plan a Date with YOU!
Many people don’t have family to spend the holidays with. If
this is the case, then use this opportunity to treat yourself to something you
normally wouldn’t do. Keep yourself busy by looking in advance to attend
events. Aid the less fortunate and volunteer at a homeless shelter or soup
kitchen. You can even find an organization to go caroling with. For the
religious folks, seek solace at a place of worship. It’s a rewarding feeling
when you can do something for yourself while also helping others.
2)Social Anxiety? Plan Ahead
Many holiday events allow you to bring plus one. So, don’t
hesitate to bring a familiar face to ease the anxiety of meeting and
socializing with new people. Think of conversation pieces beforehand, and ask
open-ended questions, such as: “How do you know the host?” “Have you done all
your shopping yet?” “Where are you spending the holidays?” Don’t be afraid to
give a compliment. Most people enjoy them, and will be drawn out by a statement
as much as a question. Most importantly, sound interested in the person you are
talking to, be mindful in your response to others, and listen and reply to what
is being said. At the end of the day, the spotlight is not solely on you. In
fact, most people are too busy focusing on themselves to be concerned about
anyone else. And if the event truly is unbearable, you can always bail early.
Just remember to come up with a legitimate sounding reason first. “We’ve gota
get back and tend to our sick puppy!”
3)Yummy Sinful Munchies
Got a special diet? Find out what will be served from the
host. If items don’t suite your preference, offer to bring a dish for your
“dietary requirements”. The holidays are no different than any other day. So
keep as close to your regular exercise regimen as possible. Some exercise is
always better than none. Similarly, rigid restriction of treats is a recipe for
diet disaster. Unless you have a life threatening health condition like
diabetes, allow yourself to enjoy holiday treats… with moderation of course, as
with all things in life. And if you fall off the wagon, it’s no excuse to stay
off. Each day is a new beginning. Strive to be healthy each day.
4)Meeting the Partner’s Family… Yikes!
If you haven’t already inquired about your significant
other’s family members and traditions, now is definitely the time to ask. You
want to know in advance what to expect, such as cultural dos & don’ts. Do
your research about wearing shoes in the home, appropriate greetings (i.e.,
handshake, hug, bow, kiss on the cheek), sleeping arrangements, etc. Dress
appropriately; although business casual attire is always a safe bet. Be
prepared to spend time with the family without your partner immediately
present. And of course, make sure to be well-groomed and offer your help around
the home. Proper etiquette will give you bonus points in the long run!
5)Seeing Your Own Family… Yikes!
Many movies have depicted the traumatic experience of
visiting family for the holidays. The reality is family will always be family,
along with their annoying habits, embarrassing stories, and complex dynamics.
However, you can mentally prepare yourself beforehand. Practice relaxation
exercises and mindful meditations. Give yourself an escape route, such as a
walk around the block, if things get too uncomfortable. If possible, find a
trusted relative, sibling, or friend who can accompany you during these events
and who you can signal to when needed. Remember, the holidays won’t last
forever even though it may seem that way in the moment. Woosah…
6)The Kids Are Home
Look into day camps before the holiday season hits. Schedule
play dates or field trips with the neighborhood kids. Establish group
activities for the kids to be involved in, such as putting up the tree,
decorating the home, helping with cooking, wrapping gifts, or sending/making
holiday cards. Their help can save you tons of time where you won’t mind their
presence.
7)Traveling Chaos
Expect delays, long security check lines, and more delays!
So, make sure to give yourself plenty of time to get to the airport, train
station, or final destination. Have Plan B in place in case of weather
cancellations. Check the weather online before packing, and try not to over
pack. If you forget something, you can always purchase or borrow it from
someone. Skip the fees and delays of checked baggage by packing travel-sized
toiletries or purchasing forbidden items, such as razors, upon arrival. Bring
along a bestseller book or the latest gossip magazine to keep yourself
entertained. Purchase new songs online to make your waiting period less
stressful. These days, you can even pamper yourself with a massage while you
wait at (most) airports.
8)Dreaded Gift Buying Decisions
Determine in advance your total budget for gifts this
season. Stay within budget by breaking this amount amongst your beneficiaries.
Ask people for their wish lists, so you don’t have to stress over what to buy.
And return the favor when asked. For mutual friends/family, consider pairing up
with another to give a joint gift. It takes the pressure off yourself and spreads
the responsibility. There’s no need to drive yourself mad trying to find the
perfect gift, if one even exists. People will be appreciative of your gift. As
cliché as it sounds; it’s the thought that counts.
9)Gifting on a Budget
Sometimes, hand crafted gifts are more cherished than those
bought with excessive dollars. So bring out your creativity and make something
instead of spending unnecessary money. Baking, knitting, homemade art, and
framed photos and cards are just some examples of inexpensive yet very
thoughtful gifts. Just because a gift is expensive doesn’t mean that it will be
more appreciated. In fact, some of the most valued gifts are the ones spent
with time, effort, and thought. Now comes the big question: which is actually
less stressful?
10)Changing Family Life Cycles
Over time, every family will evolve and grow. This may mean
that your children will want to spend some holidays with their partner’s family
or travel with friends. Embrace these changes as part of life; not as a loss.
With changes in the family structure, it’s important to consider other
traditions. Perhaps have a joint gathering with the in-laws. Or take this free
time to unwind and do some traveling of your own. Change is a necessary part of
life and indicates progression. View it as the long-awaited opportunity to
pursue new traditions. This could be the year to institute them.
The holidays are just another day. Like the rising and
falling of ocean waves, there is always an end to it. And there will be next
year to stress over it again. Happy holidays!
